Ever feel confined by life’s demands? Bills, deadlines, schedules….
When Thoreau wrote, “In wilderness is the preservation of the world,” he might well have captured the universal human desire for freedom. And, in going to nature’s wild places as well as to our own inner wilderness, lies the key to liberation.
Let me explain. As of late, I have been thinking a lot about my past life as a mountaineering instructor. A very close Soul Sister of mine recently gave me some perspective on my days as an outdoor educator by saying, “Do you realize that you’ve spent a quarter of your life doing that?”
Holy cats! A quarter of my life. TEN YEARS! I’d never really thought about it that way and when I did, it all came back to me:
I found myself pleasantly transported to that wildly adventurous feeling of roaming the high country: the peaks and valleys of mountain ranges in California, Colorado, South Africa and other places. We’d be up and going by 4 am to climb peaks and be down by noon, before avalanche hazards got too high. Students would shriek and giggle in delight during free hanging rappels, suspended in mid-air, feet, mind and spirit dangling in the wind. They learned to climb into the clouds. They learned to live in harmony with the wilderness.
I would watch in admiration as my students broke through their self-perceived limitations and self-imposed obstacles. They would cry, tremble, and say things like, “This is too hard,” only to travel the razor sharp edge of their fears and come out the other side more alive and suddenly liberated, born from the fires into a new self…
An empowered self.
A leader and a champion.
Their own authority.
Authentic, breathless and in awe of…
Themselves.
And I FREAKING LOVED BEING A PART OF THEIR PROCESS. A guide on their journey, a mentor during challenges, a teacher of the basics, an ecstatic observer of their process and in the end, a trusted friend.
I know now what I knew then, that my ultimate goal and passion in life was to help people transform and empower themselves in the face of adversity and intense challenge. I am so f***ing lucky I got to do that for ten years with the mountains as the fertile ground for their evolution. I miss those days. I miss that wilderness and the wildness that was in me at that time in my life.
And yet I know, that that sense of wilderness and wildness lives as vibrantly and alive in me as ever. I carry the “mountains” with me in spirit; that daily, I travel the high country of my soul, ascending peaks and valleys through living my dreams and overcoming challenges.
The wild(er)ness in me is why I LOVE doing what I do and what drives nearly every aspect of my life. And I want YOU to come with me. Not to my wild places but to your own wild(er)ness.
There is a vast, immeasurable wilderness living inside you right now. A wilderness where lame, social etiquette rules, the public mask you wear to work and to the grocery store every day, the laughter born out of nervousness or avoidance of something deeper, the endless to-do list and social obligations that you dread, have no place.
I’m talking about freedom from self-imposed limitations, expectations from others about who you’re supposed to be and a life history that keeps giving you the wrong conclusion about who you are and what you’re made of.
I’m talking about the land of your life’s dreams, your heart’s longings, your authentic sexuality, your Divinely inspired creativity and your deep hunger to be more of who you really are.
And when I think of you here, I think about you hanging out on some “mountain peak”, the sun shining, the wind gentle and the views beyond your wildest imagination. There is a breath-taking grandeur and roaring stillness that is unparalleled. It is an experience that most seek and yet, easily lose their way.
So, I’m calling you back to your path, back to the wild(er)ness in you.
St. Gregory the Great says:
“Where love exists, it works great things. But when it ceases to act, it ceases to exist.”
I share that quote with you because love helps call us back to our deepest, wildest, truest nature. Any “great act” that we undertake, whether it’s picking ourselves up in the midst of disappointment and sorrow, working through fears, committing to a Spiritual path or trusting another, must necessarily have its foundations in love. And yet, we lose our way when fear misleads us into barren, desolate lands which is not the same as the wild(er)ness.
Choosing to live in the wild(er)ness involves trusting the unfolding clarity that each new day brings, committing to actions based in love, honoring the rhythms of the natural world, ourselves included, and receiving the gifts of challenge as lessons for personal and Spiritual growth.
The wilderness is not a place to be feared, but a place to come home to.
So, here are a couple questions to help you come home:
- Where does love exist in your life and how do you act on it?
- If you weren’t afraid, what “great” thing would you do? What’s one step you can take today towards bringing that “great” thing to life?
- Where and/or how do you reconnect to your own wilder(er)ness?
- What if the challenges in your life were gifts or lessons meant to empower you? How would you approach them differently?
Puhleeeze share your answers in the comment section below! I always, always want to hear from you and am honored that you are here. And if you see something that someone else has said that you like, comment back to them. Let’s start building community together!
XOXO,
M.

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Love exists all around me. In my children, in my family, in my brand new friends, in my old friends, in EVERYONE I have not met yet, and in the nature right outside my door. I love freely, and express my love with no reservations. I now realize that I am worthy of being loved back, and that is a whole new freedom in itself.
The great thing I would like to do, but am afraid, is start a Master’s program in Social Work. I have a little stumbling block, one that I keep making excuses for avoiding. Maira, I know it’s on our ‘tackle list’, and I am ready.
I have gone back to my wilderness, or at least discovered it for the first time. After all, I was saying “it’s too hard” over and over and over not too long ago. Now, I am one years old, and that gives me the luxury of discovering everything new and beautiful around me. The luxury of being open to anything and everything. Most of all, it gives me the luxury of not giving a shit about what anyone else thinks about anything about me? I can be oblivious, and it feels great.
Dana! I didn’t know you wanted to get your MSW! Brava for sharing this and we most definitely will have to talk about this asap!
Thanks as always for checking in on the blog and sharing your heart!
About your comments on forgiveness….I’ve believe that I have forgiven my ex-husband. I’m 99% sure that I have. Does that mean I have to like him? We have kids together, and I have never been anything but fair through all his post-marriage B.S. I took a look at his FB profile page, and it made me sick and embarrassed to have been married to him. Maybe I should work on forgiving myself. I’m worth it.
the wild(er)ness calls, sings, dances in and around and over and through me. i am the wild untamed tromping little meadow gazer that i once and always was.
love exists in the stillness. in the moments of sheer beauty, searing pain, of sweat and devotion. of smoke and silence. love pours through me like a sieve… seepingweeping through my pores, leaving greasemarks on my pillow and tearstains on my sheets.
if i weren’t afraid, i’d be bigHUGEamazonian. fierce and independent. strident in seeking joy and pleasure. giving beyond measure until my friends and loves are filled to the brim with their own beautiful truth. i can shed my dusty skin and expose my luminous beauty. it is time for change. not for the sake of change but for the sake of sanity. to live in the body and not the epilogue.
if my challenges are gifts, then i am gifted indeed. full of learning and hope. driven to reach the peak… striding toward the stars. each mistake is a rung on the ladder, a bird on the wind, a streak of gold in the mountain.
You, Maira, are truly “…a guide on their journey, a mentor during challenges, a teacher of the basics, an ecstatic observer of their process and in the end, a trusted friend.” I am called to answer to my own bone-deep soulectric passion with you as my shining example… your rawness… your ability to scale mountains and ecstatically guide your friends and clients on their journeys… you are a gift to us all.
Emelie,
Your post leaves me in awe of the lyrical charm and flow you bring to your writing. And I am honored to be in your life. You are absolutely, whole-heartedly right when you say “love exists in the stillness.” Here’s to being still and feeling the love!
xo,
M.
Here, here, Ms. Maira. Nothing better than time in the wilderness to get your head right.
The older I get, the happier I am with my results away and unplugged. A renewed sense of gratitude and happiness for the life I made, for my wife and family and, I think most importantly, an appreciation that I can still push myself to go further.
Broz! Been contemplating the whole idea of getting “unplugged” more and more as I’ve been craving real wilderness experiences, not just the wilderness in my head! Glad you liked the post and I always welcome your comments!
Thank you for this inspired post. There’s a wilderness in me, in all of us, that begs us back to basics; back to nature. I feel that call like a rip tide. In her pull, I am free.
To stand tall. As tall as the tallest pine. To reach far. As far as the phoenix wing. To breathe deep. As deep as the earth’s core. To thank often. As often as the nightfall. To live wild. As wild as the forest. If nothing else, may this be my daily practice.
So grateful to have found you, Maira! Wishing you much continued success & joy!
Karen!
Thank you for your lyrical and heart-singing comments. I loved this: “To thank often. AS often as the nightfall.” I will be sure to get to know you better via your website!
xoxo!
I can completely identify with your love for the mountains. I carry them everywhere with me, now…. last December, in London, amidst the chaos and human traffic, I felt that same peace in my heart, appreciating the life of all those rushing ‘strangers’ as much as I did the views from the peaks of the mountains I’ve visited in the UK. It’s a wonderful and calming shift of perspective.
Amen to peace in our hearts!
Heck YES!! My ongoing journey is to access more and more of this wild(er)ness within myself and help others do the same. Your writing about the boundlessness of this wildness (“wilderness” captures it *so* well) reminds me that each of our journeys is NEVER over, that there is always more adventure and love and amazing things to come. Much love, Lisa
Lisa! Awesome to have you here. This is one of my most favorite posts that I’ve ever written. I literally tapped into my days as a mountaineering instructor and my body lit up with excitement and enthusiasm. How are you going to access more of this wilderness in you? So excited to hear.
Be well.